Your attitude determines how well you do anything in life – including getting clean and living sober.
The former Notre Dame football coach Lou Holtz stated the following:
Ability is what you’re capable of doing.
Motivation determines what you do.
Attitude determines how well you do it.
Let’s be clear, and put the cards right on the table. Drug addicts and alcoholics have the the ability to stop using drugs and live a clean healthy life. Period. Yes. You. Can. What might be lacking is the correct attitude.
A lot of times when people say they ’can’t’ to something it really means they ‘won’t.‘ Everybody can stop using drugs, many people won’t stop using drugs. They have put the strongest chains on their ability to act – a poor attitude. A poor attitude can destroy whatever motivation to get sober there may be.
The good news for addicts is that people can and do change. No matter how far the individual has fallen as a result of their addiction they should be able to get a second chance in life. An attitude shift can happen in an instant.
What’s Your Attitude About Getting Clean and Living Sober?
As a clinician, one of the questions I asked virtually every client as a kind of screening question to see where they were at was “Do you think you have the ability to stay sober?”
Most people hesitantly said they believe they can. A very few said absolutely, I’m sure of it, I know deep down I can. However, a significant number of people ‘got honest ’and said they didn’t think they can do it. They did not believe they had the ability to get clean and stay sober.
Your attitude determines how well you do something. Henry Ford stated:
Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right.
So many people “try” to get clean and sober, not nearly as many succeed. To a large extent it is their attitude that determines what they will do. Having the proper attitude is a key in getting ready to get sober.
A person who is simply trying has open themselves up and escape hatch for failure. They can always say well at least I tried. A person who is truly convicted will state that they WILL get sober and turbocharge that conviction ‘I will do this NO MATTER WHAT’. That’s the winning ticket.
There Is No Such Thing As Failure
No matter how many times you stopped and started using and not using drugs, you are making progress. It might be really hard to see it but you are. You are way ahead of people who do not even know they have a problem or know they have a problem and refuse to attempt to deal with it. If there is a relapse, you don’t slide all the way back to the beginning of not believing you have a problem. You just learn an approach that didn’t work for you.
Each time your plans fall short, analyze where they went wrong, learn from the experience, and continue moving forward. But do something different next time. Do not believe you can do the same thing over and over again and get different results
When you “fail,” all you’ve really done is discovered an ineffective way of trying to do something. That’s all. The knowledge gained only makes you more capable in the future.
Adjusting your attitude and making the changes to get clean and live sober permanent will take some work. This effort pays off. Your attitude affects your perspective, what you notice, and what you fail to notice. So by adjusting your attitude, you can shift your whole reality!
Examine the attitudes you already hold that may be limiting your life and happiness. What perspectives and beliefs about sobriety and life would serve you better? Start the process of adjusting those ineffective attitudes today for a happier tomorrow.
Stop Being Wishy Washy – Change Your Attitude to Change Your Life
An attitude is simply a point of view. Points of view can be changed. When your life goes in a direction that you’d rather not experience, it’s often hard to deal with the challenge of changing it. You can learn to control emotions and feelings as well as attitudes.
You try many different ways to get yourself on the right track to get clean and live sober, but nothing you’re doing seems to work. Does that sound familiar?
If it does, you’ve undoubtedly noticed that having the ideal life isn’t always easy to come by. However, enjoying a fulfilling life has very little to do with how your cards are dealt, but rather how you play them.
As the saying goes, “Life is 1% what happens to you and 99% how you deal with it.” How you deal with life’s situations ultimately determines your quality of life.
The attitude you display in any circumstance will inevitably impact the outcome of it.
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The minute you start to change your attitude and desires to get clean and live sober, you’ll start to feel accomplished at the end of a challenge as opposed to feeling conquered by it.
When you remember that you have the power to choose your reaction, you’ll have the power to determine the outcome of a situation!
If your ultimate goal in life is to be truly happy, stop and take a look at how much control you have over most outcomes. Once you have stopped long enough to realize that only you can determine how happy you feel, you’ll automatically start making the choices and attitude adjustments that will help you achieve that happiness!
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Some Really Good Resources
- Drugs, Brains and Behavior: The Science of Addiction (Drugabuse.gov) – In my opinion this is the best short read on addiction. I have used the content for many therapy groups and lectures…check it out.
- Understanding Drug Use and Addiction Many people don’t understand why or how other people become addicted to drugs. This explains it nicely.
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